RSVP: Understanding the Saptapadi

Seven steps, seven vows, and a lifetime of togetherness—welcome to the Saptapadi or Saath Phere, the most significant moment of many Hindu weddings. Here’s everything you need to know to appreciate its depth and celebrate it in style.

This article will refer to the ceremony as Saptapadi and provide a general overview of its steps and vows. However, it is important to note that Hindu wedding traditions vary widely across regions and communities. This article presents just one perspective, and we encourage mindfulness and respect for the diverse ways in which this sacred ritual is observed.

What is the Saptapadi?

The Saptapadi, also referred to as Saat Phere, is a quintessential Hindu wedding ritual. This ceremony involves the bride and groom taking seven sacred steps or rounds around the Agni (sacred fire), each representing a vow they make to one another. With Agni as the divine witness, these vows encompass everything from mutual respect and prosperity to lifelong companionship.

Performed as part of the larger wedding ceremony, the Saptapadi is usually guided by a priest who chants mantras while the couple walks around the fire, often linked by a scarf or sash.

Understanding Variations

While the Saptapadi is a key ritual in many Hindu weddings, its observance varies across regions and subgroups throughout South Asia. Regarding the terminology, the term Saptapadi is the Sanskrit term for "seven steps". In contrast, Saat Phere translates to "seven circumambulations" in Hindi – reflecting the different ways in which this ritual is practised.

When it comes to the ceremony itself, some communities follow ritual variations regarding the direction of the steps or the number of vows, while other Hindu communities do not observe this tradition at all. These variations highlight the diversity within Hindu wedding traditions, reflecting how traditions evolve based on regional and cultural influences while still honouring the essence of a sacred union.

Why it Matters

Beyond its cherished symbolism, the Saptapadi underscores the sacredness of marriage and the mutual promises of love, support, and partnership that form its foundation.

How it Works

Guests can expect a mix of solemnity and celebration, as this ritual is the heart of the wedding day.

1. Setting the Fire: A sacred fire is lit, symbolising Agni, the divine witness.

2. Sacred Bond: The couple’s scarves are often tied together as a sign of unity.

3. The Vows: Typically performed as the final step of the wedding day, the priest recites mantras while the couple takes seven steps around the fire, each representing a specific vow. A general overview of the themes seen in the seven vows are as follows:

   • Nourishment: To provide for each other and lead a healthy life.

   • Strength: To build physical, mental, and spiritual strength together.

   • Prosperity: To earn and share wealth and happiness.

   • Family: To support and cherish each other and their family.

   • Children: To care for their children and future generations.

   • Health and Peace: To lead a balanced, peaceful, and meaningful life.

   • Loyalty and Friendship: To remain faithful and be lifelong friends.

4. Mangalsutra and Sindoor: After the vows, the groom places a mangalsutra (a sacred necklace) around the bride’s neck and applies sindoor (vermilion powder) to her hair parting. These acts signify the bride’s new status as a married woman.

5. Blessings: The priest and family members bless the couple as they complete their rounds, marking their official marriage.

   
   

Guest Etiquette for the Saptapadi

1. Dress to Impress: Bright, festive, and traditional attire is a must! As this is the couple’s big day, dress accordingly. Avoid wearing black or white, as these colours are considered inauspicious. For women, opt for sarees or lehengas; for men, sherwanis or bandhgala sets are excellent choices.

2. Be enthusiastic: Weddings are joyous occasions, so embrace the celebratory atmosphere. Join in on the festivities, but remember to be quiet and attentive during the sacred rituals, as they are deeply meaningful to the couple and their families.

3. Offer blessings: After the ceremony, it is customary for guests to shower the couple with rice, flowers, or petals as a sign of their blessings and good wishes. Be prepared to participate.

4. Understand timing: This ceremony can be lengthy and intricate, so be patient. Auspicious timing also plays a key role in the festivities, so be mindful of when the ceremony starts. Some weddings typically occur in the morning, favouring the auspicious Brahma Muhurta (early hours), while others may opt for evening weddings to align with the baraat (groom's procession).

   
   

How to Celebrate

Embrace the significance of the occasion while joining in the festivities. A wedding is not just a celebration but a deeply meaningful union, steeped in tradition and togetherness. Honour the moment with joy, respect, and heartfelt participation to make the couple’s day truly special.